AM Kidd ft. Viddy V. | Acapella (Piano Version)
-Justin (fuckyeahslowjams)
AM Kidd | You Still Exist
-Justin (fuckyeahslowjams)
thirty things to stop doing to yourself: as maria robinson once said, “nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” nothing could be closer to the truth. but before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. here are some ideas to get you started:
- stop spending time with the wrong people. – life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. if someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. you shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. and remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
- stop running from your problems. – face them head on. no, it won’t be easy. there is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. we aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. that’s not how we’re made. in fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. this is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
- stop lying to yourself. – you can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
- stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. yes, help others; but help yourself too. if there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
- stop trying to be someone you’re not. – one of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. don’t change so people will like you. be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
- stop trying to hold onto the past. – you can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
- stop being scared to make a mistake. – doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. you end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
- stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – we may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. we all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. but you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
- stop trying to buy happiness. – many of the things we desire are expensive. but the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
- stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – if you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. you have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
- stop being idle. – don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. evaluate situations and take decisive action. you cannot change what you refuse to confront. making progress involves risk. period! you can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
- stop thinking you’re not ready. – nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
- stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – relationships must be chosen wisely. it’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. there’s no need to rush. if something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
- stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – in life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. but most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
- stop trying to compete against everyone else. – don’t worry about what others doing better than you. concentrate on beating your own records every day. success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
- stop being jealous of others. – jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. ask yourself this: “what’s something i have that everyone wants?”
- stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. you may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. but reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. you’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. so smile! let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
- stop holding grudges. – don’t live your life with hate in your heart. you will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. forgiveness is not saying, “what you did to me is okay.” it is saying, “i’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! and remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. if you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
- stop letting others bring you down to their level. – refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
- stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. just do what you know in your heart is right.
- stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – the time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. if you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
- stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. the best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
- stop trying to make things perfect. – the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
- stop following the path of least resistance. – life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. don’t take the easy way out. do something extraordinary.
- stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – it’s okay to fall apart for a little while. you don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. you shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. the sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
- stop blaming others for your troubles. – the extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. when you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
- stop trying to be everything to everyone. – doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. but making one person smile CAN change the world. maybe not the whole world, but their world. so narrow your focus.
- stop worrying so much. – worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. one way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “will this matter in one year’s time? three years? five years?” if not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
- stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – focus on what you do want to happen. positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. if you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
- stop being ungrateful. – no matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
We’d all like our lives to unfold without any bumps in the road—but that wouldn’t be much of living at all. I find it humorous when things go wrong because they happen with despicable timing. However, as the cycle of our lives much resemble a turning wheel, as soon as you reach the highest high, reality hits you hard and grounds you—humbles you. But also like the never-ending circle, once you reach the lowest-low, you’re bound to reach the top once again—slowly but surely, with a lifetime of optimism and effort.
It’s in this cycle where we, as humans, find ourselves & learn to be resilient. Some may find themselves becoming stronger through these downfalls, and others find them stuck in a rut of bad luck and bad situations.Just keep in mind that no road is perfect & you can’t always veer left or right to avoid every problem. However you may handle it, your efforts will reflect your outcome in the long run. You must take control of that wheel & choose your destiny. Choose to be happy & grateful for all that you’re blessed with.
But through it all, Smile. That’s all you can do. As hard as it may be at times, you must smile, laugh & just think to yourself that there’s something greater awaiting you on the other side
As a girl, you grow up seeing other couples go through certain things, maybe you even experience them yourselves. Over time, you develop your own thoughts on what you do and what you don’t want in a relationship. More of this, a little less of that, definitely this, maybe that, we’ll see.
So while you’re on this “search” for someone to fit your carefully constructed list of things of what you do and don’t want in a relationship & in someone who you could potentially want to be with—things get complicated. And just as things build up to be absolutely amazing in the beginning, you find yourself on Cloud 9 & more than likely clouded in judgement & thoughts.
Life’s not like a fairy tale love story—it’s crazy & might I add, gets pretty ugly. If you’re lucky enough to handle it—you may just make it out alive & stronger after a relationship—if you’re luckier than most, you actually find someone worth the struggle.
Relationships are messy, though you may not realize it right away. I mean, spending a good amount of time talking to your significant other is fun while you’re in that “Honeymoon phase”, but then once people grow out of it, the truth comes out. You find that opinions, views & values sometimes clash, especially in this day & age. There’s just so many variables that you’re up against!
My boyfriend and I have been on this roller coaster of a ride being in a long distance relationship. Let me tell you—as much as I hate to admit it to my closest friends—it get’s pretty crazy sometimes. One minute I’m up & the next I’m down & the next I’m trying to figure what the hell just happened. So WHY do I put myself through it? I mean, it would obviously be easier to call it quits sometimes—but why give up on someone I hold so dearly to my heart.
No relationship is perfect—then again, most are probably not as complicated as mine. And I’m pretty sure no one can truly understand why I stick it out with him. It’s painful, fighting & having to be away from him—but it’s addicting—he’s addicting. I wish I could understand why the addiction kicks in & though I cannot stand him sometimes—I could not bare the thought of walking away at all & especially without a fight. And of course, being the type of girl I am—I fight it out until there’s no tomorrow. And amazingly, still, no matter how much we bitch and bicker—I can’t say I love him any less.
Sometimes I wonder, maybe I still love him more each day, even when we argue—is because if he could really put up with me at my worst, then maybe, just maybe, he deserves my best. Because when I love, I love hard. I give my 200% at all times & go out of my way—and knowing that no matter what goes down, he’s going to make sure that he doesn’t walk away when things get tough—well he’s a keeper, in my book.
Being in a relationship takes so much work & effort to nourish it and make it into something great. It can’t really just happen without keeping it spontaneous, or occasionally romantic, adventurous, cutesy, corny, what have you.
So I guess when someone asks exactly what I want in a relationship—I kind of want it all. I want the good times, traveling, surprises, romantic getaways, laughing til I can’t breathe & even the bad times, the arguing, the bickering, & the clashing of opinions. I want someone who can’t wait for any free moment to tell me he’s thinking about me. I want someone who will fight it out to the bitter end to make sure that we never part ways, because he believes that we’re meant to be together. I just want a string of good moments to get us through the bad.
And yet—he thinks I’m so complicated, but it’s quite simple.